You may have that great job you dreamt of, an amazingly supportive family & friends. You might have achieved almost everything that you have set out to do in your life, yet you still feel like ‘something is missing’. When we feel like this, it can seem like such a lonely and confusing time, even leading us into things that we can often end up regretting.
I often see people who have literally quit their jobs and ended good, strong long-term relationships, with the belief that it was those things which they needed to change in order to find that ‘state of happiness’, only to realise they feel even more lost.
In my opinion, finding our true purpose and getting that spiritual alignment is more than skin deep and cannot be attained by just looking at our external circumstances or making some sudden changes. You need your physical body, your mind and your soul to all be aligned and in harmony!
But how do we get that and more importantly, how do we make sure we don’t destroy our life along the way?
The first thing I say to my clients when they are on this journey of self-discovery is to not make any dramatic life-changing decisions – unless it is booking a session with me of course! Why do I say this? Well, making a decision when we’re confused and lost is almost impossible to get right.
This is because emotions shape and influence the decisions we make. If we make a decision when we’re upset, sad, angry, confused or even happy, we can end up in some sticky situations where we later think, “Oh crap! Why did I do that?” – adding to more confusion and misalignment along the way.
So how do we make sure this doesn’t happen to us?
Here are six things to consider when you’re feeling a little lost or you find yourself wondering what ‘this’ is all about…
Complete a Life Audit
To figure out what is missing you have to see what is or isn’t there in the first place. Performing an audit of your life helps you to see which areas of your life you’re feeling unfulfilled and gives you a better idea of where it would make sense to spend your energy making some changes for the better.
My favourite tool to help with the life audit is the Wheel of Life – this focuses on the eight major areas of your life: finances, career/business, fun/recreation, family & friends, health & wellbeing, love, physical environment & spiritual.
This is also a great way to see where your strengths lie, even though you may not have realised it until this point. It’s so easy to get caught up in our problems, when really things are not as bad as our mind makes us believe they are, providing us with a deeper sense of clarity.
Listen to Your Intuition
When we follow our intuition we feel happy, aligned and have a sense of calm. If we resist & ignore it that’s when we can find ourselves feeling uneasy, confused and having a scattered mind. Figuring out how to know when your intuition is talking to you can be the difficult part though… especially if you haven’t listened to this much in the past.
When clients come to see me, this is usually one of the first things we delve into and I advise them with tips on how to re-ignite and learn to trust that elusive ‘gut feeling’.
One way to develop and strengthen your intuition is to meditate. When we quieten the mind, that’s when those insightful thoughts and feelings rise to the surface and you find that clarity.
Know Your Values & Your Vision
Our values help us understand what we stand for. Once we know these, we find it easier to create that vision of what we want our future to look like. To help discover what your core values are start by looking at what is important to you and what you enjoy spending time doing.
Create a New Set of Standards
Once you’ve realised what your values are then it’s time to be honest with yourself and assess whether you’re actually living by them. If where you’re currently heading does not align with your values create a new set of standards to live by. For example, if you figure out that one of your values is personal growth but you realise that you haven’t invested in any self-development, or you’re the same person as you were 5-10 years ago, then it’s time to take some action on re-aligning with what you’ve identified is truly important to you.
Set Healthy Boundaries and Give Yourself Space to Reflect
Putting boundaries in place not only helps you to stay true to yourself but it sets an intention to the universe that you’re worthy of protecting your physical, emotional and mental wellbeing. This in turn helps us to establish who we are as a whole. Setting healthy boundaries and giving yourself space to reflect allows you to make tweaks along the way.
Be Kind to Yourself
I know this goes without saying, but how many of us have that inner dialogue that acts as an internal bully, telling us we’re not worthy or good enough to receive love & kindness?
Most of the people I see struggle with this one, but after a few sessions with me, they soon turn into their own biggest fans. After all, if we don’t believe in ourselves then how can we expect anyone else to? This can be tricky at first! If you’ve taught your brain to constantly think negative thoughts then it can take some training to get it back to that place of love.
Start by repeating some loving affirmations to yourself that call out your best qualities. One of my all-time favourite-yet-simple, affirmations is “I am truly deserving of all good things”.
You could also make the ultimate investment in yourself, like one of my recent clients Lianne who reached out to me to help her in finding her true purpose.
She was tired of having that feeling of being lost and knowing there was more she could give to life. She just wasn’t sure where to start or even how to move past that negative self-talk she’d trained her brain in so well.
After only a few sessions with me, she found that she had more clarity in her life and had made a massive breakthrough with knowing where she is heading and feeling more aligned. Then the real magic happened and she found herself asking me to help her spiritually too.
We started to work on her spiritual development and she is now a confident person who puts absolute trust in the universe and has gone beyond those limitations she once had! Amazing!
Finding yourself a good quality coach, therapist or mentor can help with the process of finding that true alignment, but what adds the real value is making sure you find one that is in tune with you and actually gets what you’re going through.
Some people you just have an instant connection with but I always recommend having a discovery call with the person you feel drawn to before committing to working with them. After all, this is one of the deepest, most important discoveries you’ll go on in life!
Are you ready to take your spiritual alignment to the next level & find your true purpose, then book a free 20-minute discovery call with me now and we can discuss how I can help to get you there.